A conservative friend said the other day, “He who stands in the middle can cast stones at either side, then run to the other for safety.”

This can be true, and such a person is not to be admired! What my friend did not say (and does not know) is that the person who stands in the middle will certainly be stoned by BOTH sides, and that is what I experience constantly when I’m talking to ideological people. In fact, that’s how I know I’m truly in the middle. Both sides think I’m on the other side.

I always tell couples in marriage counseling, “At some point you’ll both be convinced I’m on the other person’s side. I’m an equal opportunity offender.” Counseling any other way cannot work because the truth is almost always somewhere in the middle. And that doesn’t mean that neither side has the truth, it means neither side has all of it – Continue Reading…